Love as Never Before

A Unique, Groundbreaking Experiential Event

With Terri O’Fallon PhD, Kim Barta MA and Marj Britt EdD 

February 11-14, 2019 (Valentine’s week)

Unity of Orange County
23181 Verdugo Dr., Laguna Hills, CA

Love. We seek it, we give it, we engage in it with others. Humanity across time and cultures embraces love. Love is interwoven into the very fabric of our body, soul and spirit. We feel it in ourselves and we feel it in those we love. Love is often described as something pure and unchanging. But when we look at ourselves and those around us we see and feel how our love grows. This workshop is about that growth. How love grows and develops in stages throughout our life. That is…

Love grows up just as we grow up.

We know love develops. Now we know how love develops. Recent research into love and how it grows in stages can help us to be the most loving people we can be. With this new information we can map our own stages of love as a guide for our own development. The implications of this are quite profound! It can help you understand your style of love and your partner’s style of love. Our love profile can show how your children love, how you love, how your neighbors might feel love. We can understand how we can receive love, how we can give love and how we can share love. It can help us so we can connect and make more loving relationships with everyone around us. We can learn to become love.

Welcome to Love as Never Before, a four day workshop on the experience of how love grows up throughout our lives. In this workshop, we will explore the stages of love using the STAGES Matrix, a model of human development developed by Terri O’Fallon PhD based on almost 10 years of research. Research on the stages of human development has been ongoing for over 100 years. STAGES is a recent model that uncovers repeating patterns throughout our lives up into the latest stages for which there is research.

The workshop will highlight your love and your love potential as seen through the parameters of STAGES. We will see how the underlying building blocks that grow our love change over time to bring broader, later, more stable capacities for love.

The workshop will combine presentations on the STAGES model with exercises and small group discussions focused on exploring your experience of love in your life. With this combination of personal growth and the research on the developmental stages of Love, “Love like Never before” offers useful information for Love, health and well-being of your life and the lives of your loved ones.

 

What you will learn:

  • A “roadmap” of how love develops in your life

  • An understating of your current location on the love map

  • Ideas for developing your love at each place on the map in depth, breadth and height

  • How you can unfold the higher stage of love that is next for you

  • To love as you never have before!

Workshop Program

Pre-workshop activities are not officially part of the workshop but you are welcome to participate and there is no charge.

Join us for pre-workshop events at Unity of Orange County in Laguna Hills

Love as Never Before
10am: Sunday Morning Service

Terri O’Fallon, Kim Barta and Marj Britt will be the guest speakers during the Sunday morning service at Unity of Orange County

Love as Never Before: An Overview with Terri O’Fallon, Kim Barta and Marj Britt
1 – 4 pm: Afternoon Workshop

Included for all participants registered for the full workshop taking place from February 11-14, or $30

Explore an Overview of Love in ways that you’ve never experienced it before!

  • Open into a Quantum Leap into how you understand Love in your life.
  • Recognize the REPEATING PATTERNS, the DRIVERS, and the SHADOW CRASHES
  • See the Trinity of Three tiers, including the 12 realms of receptive and active energy
  • Realize how your life TRANSCENDS and INCLUDES naturally
  • The physical dimensions, the thinking and feeling of subtle dimensions
  • And the still rare, yet ALWAYS ALREADY realms of the MetAware

Day One: Feb 11 ~ 9am to 5pm

Overview

The repeating patterns of Love

The three questions:

  1. Is the love you are engaged with Concrete, Subtle, or MetAware?
  2. Do you prefer an Individual orientation, or a collective orientation?
  3. Is your love process primarily receptive, active, reciprocal or interpenetrative?

Application overview:

  1. What is the experience of these levels of Love?
  2. How you can apply these patterns of Love in your life ?

The Concrete STAGES

The Concrete Individual Love STAGES

Early developmental patterns that set the frame for later developmental levels. What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?
Working with the genesis of shadow and its effects on children, arrested development in adults, Attachment Disorders, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and Addiction which come up early in life and how their healing can support greater breadth of love at the early years of life.

The first person perspective

Contours of the early concrete self and introjection

  1. Receiving Love
  2. Practical applications of early experiences of love
  3. Transition: a one-parameter change

Late first person self and states: birth of and projection

  1. Giving Love
  2. Transition: a two-parameter change

The Concrete Collective STAGES

What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?

The Second Person Perspective: The repeating effects of the collective and how collective perspectives form, and produce shadows that repeat in later stages. How shadow begins to grow up; working further with arrested development, Attachment Disorders, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and Addiction. Healing shadow supports a greater experience of Love

The second person perspectives of love

Early second person: birth of the collective; maturing love as reciprocal

  1. Practical applications of early reciprocal Love
  2. Transition, a one parameter change

Late second person: concrete projection and introjections of Love in collectives

  1. Practical applications
  2. Transition a three-parameter change

Day Two: Feb 12 ~ 9am to 5pm

The Subtle Tier

The Subtle Individual STAGES

Third person perspective; The Subtle developmental patterns of Love; how early patterns repeat in adults. What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?

Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD grow up. How healing them opens the door for greater, nuanced Love.

The third person perspectives of Love

The contours of the early third person subtle self and Love: marinating in subtle Love

  1. Practical applications
  2. transition, a one parameter change

Late third person perspectives: birth of reflective aspects of the feeling of love. Thinking about thinking, thinking about feeling, feeling about thinking and feeling about feeling.

  1. Practical
  2. a two parameter change

The Subtle Collective STAGES

Fourth person perspective. Subtle developmental patterns
What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?

Working with the up-shift of early concrete collective Love. Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD continue to grow up-and how healing these support Love growing up.

The fourth person Love perspectives

Early fourth person: Love in context

  1. Practical applications
  2. a one parameter change
  3. Late fourth person: subtle projection and introjections of love in collectives

    1. Practical applications
    2. a three parameter change

Day Three: Feb 13 ~ 9am to 5pm

The MetAware Tier

The MetAware Individual STAGES

Fifth and sixth person perspectives on Love: Metaware developmental patterns.

What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?
The effects and sophistication of long term shadow. Working with the agile mind: Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD. Appropriate interventions targeted to patterns. Ethical considerations. How alleviation of these shadow elements continues to grow Love up.

The fifth person perspective

The contours of the early fifth person construct aware Love

  1. Practical
  2. A one-parameter change

Late fifth person self: Transpersonal Love

  1. Practical applications
  2. A two-parameter change

The sixth person perspective

Early sixth person: birth of the MetAware collective. An ocean of Love

  1. Practical applications:
  2. a one-parameter change

Late sixth person: Illumined Love

  1. Practical applications

Practical Application

  1. Participant cases, video, Audios
  2. Summary, questions, speculations, suggestions and conversation

Day Four: Feb 14 ~ 9am to 12pm

On Valentine’s Day, February 14, we will be co-creating Sacred Ceremony that will bring our own lives into the curriculum. We will begin in the sacred space that we will share together for these very special days. The time will include sharing as well as A TIME IN THE GARDEN.

VOWS OF COMMITMENT and RE-COMMITMENT, of BEING and BECOMING

These Vows will be like a Rainbow Bridge, maybe even a double rainbow. It will be a day to bring together all of the endings and beginnings, all of the vibration of Light.

We will begin in the QUIET, LISTENING with open hearts and soul awareness. We will open to our Soul Knowing, gentle, kind and honoring. It will be a time of the Invisible formless giving us glimpses of clarity and wholeness. There will be feelings of great love as this Impulse gives you a higher and deeper sense of the meaning of your life as a container for the Divine.

As we say ‘yes’ to WILLINGNESS, we open into becoming One with this Well Being and Love that transcends momentary feelings.

SCRIBING WHAT COMES will be one of our ways for letting the VOWS that Call us reveal themselves in the Invisible Essence of the All That Is. This is different from journaling, coming spontaneously from Beyond the human rational mind. These can become words and Vows that we commit to live.

SPEAKING THE WORDS will become part of the way that form begins to reveal Itself. ‘What is important to me, to others, and to all Beings?’ will be part of what guides us in this opening. Sharing what has come inspires getting more clear intentions that invite even greater willingness.

It will be a time of speaking and listening with hearts wide open, honoring the creativity in ourselves and in others that will be inspiring this Birth of LOVE in new ways, stages and levels. We will speak our promises and dreams and witness each other’s promises and dreams. SYNERGY will invite new birth often beyond what we have humanly imagined.

What comes is something vaster, more inclusive and whole. There will be mutually beneficial dialogue that we experience often through our heart. It can be very beautiful to find other people who may articulate what you have experienced. It is a Gift of Grace, Beauty, Joy and Love. Transmission can come that is Beyond Words. It comes simply from the Field that is part of this Gift.

You are invited to be a part of this very beautiful and significant time.

The Location

The workshop will be held at:

Unity of Orange County
23181 Verdugo Dr.
Laguna Hills, CA
(map)

The nearest airport is John Wayne International Airport (SNA) in Orange County/Irvine (usually referred to as Orange County on airport departure/arrival boards). Los Angeles International Airport (LAX) is about 50 miles away. Flights to LAX are often less expensive but John Wayne Airport is much more convenient.

Accommodations

We have confirmed a group of rooms for participants at the Laguna Hills Lodge: a local, good quality, welcoming, reasonably priced and conveniently located hotel with a garden and newly remodeled rooms. The hotel is the recipient of the “Certificate of Excellence” on TripAdvisor,

The room rate is $97 + tax per night per room (1 king bed or 2 queens beds). This price includes continental breakfast for up to 4 people/room, complimentary parking, Wi-Fi, pool, sauna and fitness center. Each room has a TV, desk, refrigerator, and microwave.

To book your room, call the hotel as soon as possible at 1-949-830-2550 and mention that you are part of the MEULEMAN group.

Laguna Hills Lodge
23932 Paseo de Valencia
Laguna Hills, CA 92653
1-949-830-2550 (mention “MEULEMAN” when you make your reservation).
http://www.lagunahillslodge.com

You can see a short video description at https://youtu.be/3aWKG7Hj5ME.

It is a short 5 minutes drive (or about 35 minutes walk) to the event location and 15 minutes drive (without traffic) to Laguna Beach. The Lodge is a short walk to the Laguna Hills Regional Mall featuring stores and restaurants plus a movie theatre.

The Laguna Hills Lodge is our suggestion based on its great value and location. There are of course other hotels and lodging options in the area for various budgets. If your hotel is not within walking distance of the event location you will also need to arrange transportation to and from the event location each day.

Meals

We will only be providing tea and snacks during the workshop so you will need to arrange your meals. If you stay at the Laguna Hills Lodge, continental breakfast is included. For lunch, there are a number of restaurants within walking distance of the church. We will give you a list of these restaurants when you sign in on the first day.

Registration

Early Bird Prices: Save up to $100 if you register by January 14!

**Senior Price: 15% discount for 65+

Early Bird
Regular Price: $495

($595 after Jan. 14)

Early Bird
Senior Price: $421**

($506 after Jan. 14)

Scholarships: We have a limited amount of funding for scholarships for individuals who might benefit from the workshop but have limited means. Please click here for more information and to apply.

Questions?

Please contact us at support@stagesinternational.com if you have questions or need assistance registering. (Please don’t contact the Unity of Orange church.)

About the Presenters

Terri O’Fallon, PhD is an Integral scholar who derives theory and research interests from a passionate practice of auspicious wondering, learning, and marinating in life. She is the daughter of a 95-year-old dancing mother, eldest of seven siblings, parent of two adult children, grandparent of two granddaughters, and has over fifty years of teaching from pre-kindergarten through post PhD. She has a PhD in Integral Studies and masters degrees in Spiritual Direction and Special Education. These embodied experiences have supported her primary theory and research and teaching theme: growing up is waking up throughout the lifespan.

Teaching has been a theme throughout her life. Beginning as a preschool and first grade teacher, she has taught every grade, including special education and the gifted. She has had the role of principal of schools and superintendent of schools, and taught in seven colleges and universities. Her interest in life span development naturally arose from this field.

Terri’s research experience spans 40 years including eleven research studies conducted in various colleges, public schools and private research venues. Her most passionate theory, research and teaching work of the past eight years, however, revolves around the STAGES model, which integrates the Integral model by Ken Wilber with the Ego development scale of Susanne Cook-Greuter. The STAGES model was a natural culmination of her life’s experience.

Ordinariness has been the trajectory of Terri’s life. Steeped in philosophy, research, teaching, and a myriad of spiritual practices, her path continues to bring her solidly home to the practical living, breathing appreciation of the simple things in life. We wake up every morning. We grow up, quite naturally. We live through joys and sorrows, and face our family, friends, and neighbors every day. We grow old and watch our life approach its end as we apprehend the birth of our grandchildren. With the gifts of so many experiences, the highs and lows of being, what seems to always remain is what we were advised to value from birth: listening, gratitude, compassion, love, forgiveness, and generosity—lifelong lessons that never seem to end.

Terri’s website is terriofallon.comClick here to view her resumé.

Kim Barta, MA is an internationally recognized licensed professional psychotherapist, coach, spiritual guide, and speaker. His work and insights spring from grounded experiential practice with self and others in his cross-cultural and life long-experiences.

Kim worked for gender rights in his small rural school in central Montana. In college, Kim co-founded Students in Union with Nature, which partnered college students with alternative energy advocates in the community to create a solar powered organic garden lifestyle for college students.

Kim graduated with a B.A. in Cultural Anthropology from the University of Montana in 1984. He pursued a masters in an interdisciplinary program that combined Psychology, Social Work, Counseling, and Sociology in a broad perspective for healing. He lived with a Native American Shaman and did his masters thesis in Shamanism and Modern Psychotherapy. He graduated with high marks in 1986.

After developing and implementing a successful construction training program for people suffering from severe mental illness: Bi-polar, Schizophrenia, and Axis ll Disorders, Kim pursued outdoor leadership, becoming an instructor with the International Outward Bound schools. Kim went on to develop a mental health treatment program for children and youth that was adopted by 3 hospitals in Montana. In 1992, Kim founded and continues to co-operate a mind/body healing arts clinic in Polson, Montana, nestled beneath the high mission mountains on the shore of Flathead Lake, in the Flathead Indian Reservation.

Ever seeking better ways of healing in the life of self and others, families and children, Kim has developed several successful new forms of therapy that deeply and rapidly lead to healing. These have proven themselves effective with a wide range of issues including depression, anxiety, PTSD, anger, addiction, chronic pain, physical illnesses, weight loss and personal growth. People utilize his psychology/coaching/spiritual guidance practice globally.

Currently, Kim has teamed up with Dr Terri O’Fallon to present workshops and trainings internationally in a new model of human development designed and researched by Dr. O’Fallon. Kim’s developmental learning theory fits lock and key with Dr. O’Fallon’s model and his extensive history in clinical human dynamics provides a grounded passion to the workshop experience.

Kim’s website is kimbartatherapy.com.

Marj Britt, EdD is a Mystic in the world, with Love as the Center of her life. She has guided many in finding purpose, passion and destiny in five decades of public education and Unity ministry. Marj was the visionary leader of Unity of Tustin CA from 1992-2011. Her EdD from the University of Massachusetts combines curriculum, psychological education and counseling. She is the author of Your Soul’s Invisible Codes, Unveiling Your Sacred Love Story which has been called a guidebook for the soul.

In 2015, Marj met Terri O’Fallon and immediately knew how important it was to develop a Love Stages Inventory. It became the first specialty protocol to go through the Beta stages and Consistency Studies standing on the shoulders of the significant research of the Stages Inventory model.

Marj is the founder of Called By Love Institute, a non-profit 501c3. The mission of Called By Love Institute is to HARNESS THE POWER OF LOVE as a revolutionary and evolutionary FORCE in healing lives, building dreams, realizing purpose, destiny, and legacy. It is about connecting ordinary and extra-ordinary people to their fullest potential, bringing Awareness and Light into the world. As you see through the eyes of the Soul, you see and experience Love in the vastness of your life. You can learn more about Marj’s work at: www.MarjBritt.com, www.CalledByLoveInstitute.com, and www.LivingLovingLegacy.com.